Recently, I have found myself reading Seth Godin’s “The Icarus Deception.” And as I have done so, and attempted to implement the various words of wisdom he conveys throughout the text, I have found myself repeatedly returning to a statement he made that the types of questions we ask shape our world.
Accordingly, I have found myself wondering if I am asking good questions. Am I asking the types of questions that allow me to connect to myself and others? Am I asking the types of questions that allow me to see and be seen? Or am I simply asking questions that enable me to continue to hide behind my own insecurities and self-doubts? Am I asking the difficult questions that require I sit with and show the areas of my vulnerability? Or Am I asking the questions that that enable me to continue moving forward completely unchanged by the response given by the other person? While there is no “right” or “wrong” here, I do know that the difference between these two types of inquires – olive branches, limbs you might say – is the space where growth might occur or stagnation might remain forever unchallenged.
The question I have for you, the one I am working to answer for myself is: Am I asking the types of valuable questions that bring the love, connection, freedom, wholeness, and expression I am deeply seeking – or, am I asking the types of inconsequential questions that prevent that love, connection, freedom, wholeness, and expression I am deeply seeking from being able to present itself?
Only you can know the difference.