“Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do.” Byron Katie
This week I find myself thinking about ways in which I can simplify my life by more fully falling in love with my life. This line of inquiry came to mind while re-reading a passage I wrote last year on the subject of contentment.
What struck me in what I had written was the simplicity of the argument I was making. Based upon what I had read, I argued that to find contentment in one’s life all one needed to do was “fall in love with one’s life.” The simplicity of this statement rung so true that I never questioned it nor did I consider the next logical question which was how?
How does one fall in love with one’s life – or in the words of Byron Katie “love what is”? How do you love the parts of life that may not seem kind, pleasant, joyful, or helpful? How do you fall in love with the heartache, pain, and suffering that impact us individually and collectively? How do you love what is, when sometimes the things that are happening within and around you feel as though they shouldn’t be happening?
While I still do not have an answer to this question, I find myself thinking of a well known quote by Albert Einstein: “No problem can be solved from the level of consciousness that created it.”
In this context, his quote suggests that maybe I experience suffering or pain because I have been attempting to solve the problem of suffering and pain from the level of suffering and pain. All because, in the words of Byron Katie, I have been operating from the perspective that certain things have been happening “to me” versus “for me” and thus resisting them instead of embracing them as teachers to guide me along my path.
With these thoughts in mind, I wanted to share the following questions with you as contemplation points for the week:
- How often do you think, feel, behave, believe, or react as though things are happening “to you” versus “for you”?
- If you were to pause for a moment and consider that everything was happening for you, versus to you, what gifts might the present moment, situation, relationship, and/or occupation be providing?
- Where might you be served by the practices of loving what is and falling in love with your life?
For me, my practice continues to be the place where I work to make things a bit simpler by learning to love and accept what is as various thoughts, feelings, and sensations come up. Imagining your practice might serve a similar purpose, I have a few public offerings. Please reach out if you’d like to join.