This week I reread a quote by poet and teacher Adrienne Rich that goes as follows:
An honorable human relationship, that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word love, is a process of deepening the truths they can tell each other.
She suggests that this level of honesty is important because it “breaks down human delusion and isolation.” By sharing one’s inner truths, we have the ability to come into deeper communion with one another. And through that communion begin to find a sense of wholeness, completeness, both in ourselves as well as within the other.
To get to that point of deep honesty, one must be willing to sit through the moments of uncomfortable silence as they reveal their inner truths. And, as I have been finding out, the ability to sit in this moment of complete nakedness and vulnerability requires that one have the courage to stay the course – especially as things become messy and muddled.
The question, the invitation that I have for you, the one I am working to ask of myself, is this: in what ways can you become still in this moment and observe what is going on, separate from your fears, worries, or anxieties about this moment?
Whenever you find yourself wondering, gently repeat to yourself “I love you.” As you do, bring your attention to your breath. By returning to the breath, you will begin to come into deeper communion with yourself and your deeper knowings. This trust in turn allows one to let go completely and love more fully.